Requesting Trust: 5 Practical Steps to Repair and Increase Trust
Want to increase trust with someone? Try this challenging-but-rewarding framework for requesting trust.
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Emotional intelligence is the key to having a successful relationship with yourself and others, which in turn is the key to a long and satisfying life. These articles explore the relationship between emotional intelligence and relationships.
Assessing Trust
Want more clarity about how much you trust someone? Try these 3 techniques for assessing trust in a relationship.
Read MoreBeyond Individual Identity: A Social Approach to Coaching Self Awareness and 360 Feedback
Transform how you coach self awareness with this social approach that helps clients move beyond binary thinking. Includes practical 3-step framework, case study, and coaching tools for handling 360 feedback resistance.
Read MoreNegotiating Conflict with Emotional Intelligence
Want to “win” the argument? Negotiate conflict effectively by adding emotional intelligence in this simple 4-step process: Get REAL solutions!
Read MoreFrom Corporate Consultant to Coach: Elise Jones’ Emotional Intelligence Journey-Voices from the Network
Elise Jones transformed her career by embracing emotional intelligence, shifting from a corporate consultant to a passionate EQ Coach. Through authentic connections, she found deeper fulfilment, proving that strong relationships are key to a happier, more meaningful life.
Read MoreGetting Off the Trouble Train
“Have you ever found yourself in the middle a situation and you know it will to turn into a big mess? You can feel it slipping out of control… and yet you keep going. It’s as if you’re being pushed along this track; you know it’s going to lead to trouble, but it seems like there’s no choice.”
Read MoreSmarter About Feelings
When I was a kid, no one taught me about emotions. They’re so powerful! And such a big part of our lives… here are the most important ideas every kid (and adult) needs to know about feelings.
Read MoreThe Myth of Winning: 3 Steps to Stand Together as Allies
Here’s why we make the boss, a colleague, a customer, spouses and lovers, and even our children into enemies — and a better way. It starts with our brains, and being addicted to the pleasure of righteousness.
Read MoreWhen You Don’t Click with Your Coworker
What can you do? Emotional intelligence tips to build bridges and collaborate better even when it’s challenging.
Read MoreEmpathy vs. Sympathy: What’s the Difference?
Learn the key difference of empathy vs. sympathy, including the most common sympathy traps. Plus tips to put empathy into action!
Read MoreTechnology Loneliness: EQ Tips from Daniel Goleman
In the chaos of contemporary life, how do we maintain connection to self and others? Two of the world’s preeminent experts on emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman and Joshua Freedman, discuss in an engaging Q&A.
Read MoreThe Surprising Science of Social Connection
The research is clear: strong social connections predict the quantity and quality of our days. So in an era marked by loneliness and superficial connection, how can we build the connections we need to thrive?
Read MoreIlluminate: Want Empathy? 3 Phrases To Ask for It
We all need a good listening ear sometimes. But how do we get it when it isn’t offered? Here are three phrases to communicate the need for empathy with others. Try them out!
Read MoreAccountable Communication: 4 Questions to Ask
Make clear commitments without wiggle room and you will empower yourself and others.
Read MoreWhat Relationship Pattern Holds You Back?
Everyone has their own pattern when it comes to relationships. ‘Attachment Styles’ have been studied in psychology for years, and its wisdom is now starting to find its way into everyday relationships. What’s your attachment style, and how can you best work with it?
Read MoreWant a Good Long Life? 1 Clear Answer from Research
“It’s useful to know it’s a choice worth making.” The results from an 80-year-long research study clearly identify what we should focus on for a long and fulfilled life.
Read MoreThe Life or Death Science of Community
Relationships are the bedrock, the foundation, of a long and satisfying life. And according to a growing body of research, building community is quite literally a matter of life and death. So what helps us build community?
Read MoreRevitalizing School Community
How do schools become vibrant, joyful, inclusive communities? School leaders intentionally build them with teachers, students and family collaboration.
Read MoreFirst Nations Youth Finding Wellbeing with Emotion, Spirit, Body & Mind
For teens struggling with a brutal addiction to solvents, hope and healing seem far away. Traditional culture & the Medicine Wheel combine with emotional intelligence to support a path forward for the children, and their counselors.
Read MoreHow to Understand People: Ask, Listen, and Get Real
Do you want to know how to understand people more easily? A starting point is a wide-spread lie we tell others — and ourselves. Here’s how to connect on a deeper level.
Read MoreFeeling Stressed? It’s a Laughing Matter
Stress is on the rise – especially after the recent election. Fortunately, a bit of emotional intelligence will help you dissolve stress the fun way: Humor! Here’s how to use emotional intelligence to fuel laughter to manage stress. When Was the Last Time You Laughed? The terribly stressful events of recent weeks–I write in the […]
Read MoreSupporting Children’s Rights through Strong Relationships
Mutually respectful relationships are a foundation for human rights. So how can children & adults use emotional intelligence to strengthen relationships?
Read MoreEQ Stories: Coaching a Career Change
EQ Stories are profiles of people whose lives have been helped by emotional intelligence and Six Seconds’ coaching model. This story is from Six Seconds’ Marilynn Jorgensen, Master Coach/ICF Trainer. Why is emotional intelligence coaching so powerful? “Bill” is a senior leader who needed EQ: ” I was moving up in my career and yet […]
Read MoreThe 4 Cs of Trust and How to Make Them More Visible
Want to increase your level of trust with someone? The first step to earning trust is to make sure that you are fully trustworthy – and also perceived that way. Check yourself against the 4Cs of trust.
Read MoreEmotional Intelligence and Collaboration in Health Care
Collaboration has emerged as a critical “doorway” to positive outcomes in healthcare, but without emotional intelligence it’s nearly impossible to change from the old model — a little neuroscience shows why.
Read MoreSolving the Biggest Problems: Daniel Shapiro on Emotional Intelligence and Negotiation
How to effectively resolve conflict? “Emotional intelligence is essential,” says Daniel Shapiro, Harvard International Negotiation Program.
Read MoreThe Way You Are
Is there a way to be unconditionally loving, and also to hold high expectations? As parents, can we love our kids “as they are” AND help them be better?
Read MoreSociograms: Mapping the Emotional Dynamics of a Classroom
A sociogram is a useful tool for educators who want objective data on a classroom’s social dynamics – here’s how they work.
Read MoreFeel the Power: Flexing EQ
The use of power is central to our interactions as leaders, coaches, parents, and change agents. To be more effective, emotional intelligence will help us understand and tune up our own use of power and the ways people react to that. There are dozens, maybe hundreds, of different forms of power. All of these “work” in some sense. If they generate certain desired there are “benefits.” At the same time, each produces unwanted side effects, called “costs.” What are some of the forms of power that you have, and that you exercise? What happens when you exercise these different forms of power? What price do you pay for each such use?
Read MoreAre We Wired for Empathy?
The neuroscience of empathy is fascinating and offers practical lessons for leadership and life. Our brains are wired for social connection through Mirror Neurons, which cause us to experience what we perceive.
Read MoreRight Speech by Eknath Easwaran
Karen McCown, Six Seconds’ Founder, handed this article to me several years ago. It’s stuck with me as a powerful set of guidelines for being impeccable with words. The children, Patty and I have discussed the “three gatekeepers” often over the last years; we started when the kids were 4 and 6 years old and […]
Read MoreAssent, Dissent, Descent
Recently… I told Emma (8-year-old daughter) she needed to get dressed to go. Instant protest, heel-dragging, power struggle. Yet we were going to do something she wanted! I observed a new cross-functional team starting up. The person assigned to schedule the first meeting asserted, “Since no one else wants to, I will chair the team.” […]
Read MoreAlone in the Parade
The drive to connect, to be accepted, is both glorious and brutal. It drives us to care and connect — and to engage in self-destructive behavior in a desperate bid to fit. The “thinness” of digital connection can’t actually be fixed by quantity — just as one can not get a healthy meal by eating a LOT of junk — but the thinness may drive people to want more.
Read MoreWhite Paper: Emotional Contagion
Emotions serve to focus our attention on aspects of the world that help us thrive. They provide information about our interior world and about our relationships. For this survival function to operate optimally, we are highly sensitive to emotional signals in the environment. One person’s emotions are affected by others’. This effect is called “Emotional […]
Read MoreFight or Flow Part Two: “Water Is Stronger”
This second half of “Fight or Flow” explores the alternative to the kinds of “hitting back first” reactions discussed in part one. To constructively engage with emotions requires reframing the way we think — and feel — about feelings. It’s always amazed me that these heavy stones can move — float — on a cushion […]
Read MoreFight or Flow Part I: “Hit Back First”
Why do we react – explode – shut down… and how can we use insights from current neuroscience to be less reactive?
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