Recent meeting… opposing views… EQ trainwreck. SO easy to prevent with this ridiculously easy way to gain agreement. Keep it RAW. The first step is
May 042013
May 012013
What does it take to solve our most challenging conflicts? The Founder and Director of the Harvard International Negotiation Program says “Emotional intelligence is essential.”
Feb 062013
Recovering from sadness is a psychological journey we all have to take many times over. Sometimes the emotional burden is relatively light, such as when we break a favorite dish or scrape a knee. At other times, it is tremendously heavy, weighing us down like bag full of lead as we attempt to carry on [...]
Jan 302013
I’ve noticed something intriguing – if you have no idea what result you want, you’re unlikely to get it. My skills at pool/billiards are terrible, but I still can plan ahead and think about how I’m going to whack the cue ball to get a particular result. Isn’t this true of all of our interactions? If we decide “where we want the ball to go” in our meetings, conversations, interactions… then it’s much more probably we can make that happen.
May 082012
by Alan Cooper Beyond on going observation and the practical knowledge, formal data collection of classroom relationships can help teachers create a positive classroom culture. Sociograms (see diagram below) do this. They are a teacher-made and teacher friendly way of gaining rich data about the class’s social relationships. Construction To construct a class sociogram, ask [...]
Feb 292012
The use of power is central to our interactions as leaders, coaches, parents, and change agents. To be more effective, emotional intelligence will help us understand and tune up our own use of power and the ways people react to that. There are dozens, maybe hundreds, of different forms of power. All of these “work” in some sense. If they generate certain desired there are “benefits.” At the same time, each produces unwanted side effects, called “costs.” What are some of the forms of power that you have, and that you exercise? What happens when you exercise these different forms of power? What price do you pay for each such use?
Feb 012012
Well, the answer, it would seem, is it depends on the color. I grew up with the concept that the more pure the diamond–the more clarity and clearness without flaws–the more rare it is, and therefore, the more expensive. And, a little research on the Internet seems to confirm those old thoughts. Sure enough, yellow [...]
Jan 282012
Betrayal is a strong feeling that can be difficult to process. Why? Because the trauma of the betrayal creates fear, shame, secrets, and intensity. These feelings may even mix with love and longing for the person by whom we feel betrayed. In 2009 I experienced a situation where I was hurt by someone I trusted. [...]
Jan 242012
I just read a wonderful article by Geoffrey James that reinforces that success is based on the quality of our relationships, the emotions we experience each day and what we focus on………http://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/10-questions-that-create-success.html Here is a summary of the 10 questions that the author recommends we ask ourselves at the end of each day to be [...]
Jan 232012
Sometimes in life we do things we do not understand and yet they deliver positive results. At a shallow level of analysis, the reasons underlying this can usually be found in some commonplace answers, everyday rules, basic values and perhaps a way of life that has been adopted not by choice but by old habit. [...]