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Emotional intelligence is the key to having a successful relationship with yourself and others, which in turn is the key to a long and satisfying life. These articles explore the relationship between emotional intelligence and relationships.
“Have you ever found yourself in the middle a situation and you know it will to turn into a big mess? You can feel it slipping out of control… and yet you keep going. It’s as if you’re being pushed along this track; you know it’s going to lead to trouble, but it seems like there’s no choice.”
Read MoreWhen I was a kid, no one taught me about emotions. They’re so powerful! And such a big part of our lives… here are the most important ideas every kid (and adult) needs to know about feelings.
Read MoreHere’s why we make the boss, a colleague, a customer, spouses and lovers, and even our children into enemies — and a better way. It starts with our brains, and being addicted to the pleasure of righteousness.
Read MoreWhat can you do? Emotional intelligence tips to build bridges and collaborate better even when it’s challenging.
Read MoreLearn the key difference of empathy vs. sympathy, including the most common sympathy traps. Plus tips to put empathy into action!
Read MoreIn the chaos of contemporary life, how do we maintain connection to self and others? Two of the world’s preeminent experts on emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman and Joshua Freedman, discuss in an engaging Q&A.
Read MoreChallenge – let’s counter “social distancing” by changing it to “physical distancing… together” & using this time for strengthening connections. Caring emotions are also contagious!
Read MoreThe research is clear: strong social connections predict the quantity and quality of our days. So in an era marked by loneliness and superficial connection, how can we build the connections we need to thrive?
Read MoreWe all need a good listening ear sometimes. But how do we get it when it isn’t offered? Here are three phrases to communicate the need for empathy with others. Try them out!
Read MoreThis Valentine’s Day, give your lover, spouse, or best friend what they really deserve: Your undivided attention. Empathy means listening without fixing, talking about your stories, or wondering what will happen next on your favorite TV show. Learn how to be more empathetic with this post.
Read MoreMake clear commitments without wiggle room and you will empower yourself and others.
Read MoreEveryone has their own pattern when it comes to relationships. ‘Attachment Styles’ have been studied in psychology for years, and its wisdom is now starting to find its way into everyday relationships. What’s your attachment style, and how can you best work with it?
Read MoreThis week, in the United States, is the holiday of Thanksgiving: a time when people get together, share what they’re thankful for, and eat a lot of turkey. I knew I wanted to focus this week’s Illuminate on gratitude, and one of the activities from this month’s POP-UP Festivals reminded me of one of my favorite activities: writing thank-you notes.
Read More“It’s useful to know it’s a choice worth making.” The results from an 80-year-long research study clearly identify what we should focus on for a long and fulfilled life.
Read MoreRelationships are the bedrock, the foundation, of a long and satisfying life. And according to a growing body of research, building community is quite literally a matter of life and death. So what helps us build community?
Read MoreHow do schools become vibrant, joyful, inclusive communities? School leaders intentionally build them with teachers, students and family collaboration.
Read MoreWhat is that emotional component of community? How does it fare in these days of dissent and dissolution? If we want to strengthen community, how can emotional intelligence fuel this connection?
Read MoreFor teens struggling with a brutal addiction to solvents, hope and healing seem far away. Traditional culture & the Medicine Wheel combine with emotional intelligence to support a path forward for the children, and their counselors.
Read MoreDo you want to know how to understand people more easily? A starting point is a wide-spread lie we tell others — and ourselves. Here’s how to connect on a deeper level.
Read MoreStress is on the rise – especially after the recent election. Fortunately, a bit of emotional intelligence will help you dissolve stress the fun way: Humor! Here’s how to use emotional intelligence to fuel laughter to manage stress. When Was the Last Time You Laughed? The terribly stressful events of recent weeks–I write in the […]
Read MoreMutually respectful relationships are a foundation for human rights. So how can children & adults use emotional intelligence to strengthen relationships?
Read MoreWant to “win” the argument? Negotiate conflict effectively by adding emotional intelligence in this simple 4-step process: Get REAL solutions!
Read MoreEQ Stories are profiles of people whose lives have been helped by emotional intelligence and Six Seconds’ coaching model. This story is from Six Seconds’ Marilynn Jorgensen, Master Coach/ICF Trainer. Why is emotional intelligence coaching so powerful? “Bill” is a senior leader who needed EQ: ” I was moving up in my career and yet […]
Read MoreWant to increase trust with someone? Try this challenging-but-rewarding framework for requesting trust.
Read MoreWant to increase your level of trust with someone? The first step to earning trust is to make sure that you are fully trustworthy – and also perceived that way. Check yourself against the 4Cs of trust.
Read MoreWant more clarity about how much you trust someone? Try these 3 techniques for assessing trust in a relationship.
Read MoreCollaboration has emerged as a critical “doorway” to positive outcomes in healthcare, but without emotional intelligence it’s nearly impossible to change from the old model — a little neuroscience shows why.
Read MoreI’m a “connector”… I love making new connections with colleagues around the world . . . I love connecting people to each other. I love the social networks that we’ve created to inspire each other with wisdom, commitment, research, and experience with emotional intelligence. Through social media, as have many of you, I’ve shared ideas, […]
Read MoreHow to effectively resolve conflict? “Emotional intelligence is essential,” says Daniel Shapiro, Harvard International Negotiation Program.
Read MoreAs the pace of healthcare increases, empathy is becoming scarce. Yet research shows that empathy actually may save time – and save lives. The learnable skills of emotional intelligence may be an essential ingredient in supporting providers to meaningfully and effectively connect with patients.
Read MoreI’ve noticed something intriguing – if you have no idea what result you want, you’re unlikely to get it. My skills at pool/billiards are terrible, but I still can plan ahead and think about how I’m going to whack the cue ball to get a particular result. Isn’t this true of all of our interactions? If we decide “where we want the ball to go” in our meetings, conversations, interactions… then it’s much more probably we can make that happen.
Read MoreIs there a way to be unconditionally loving, and also to hold high expectations? As parents, can we love our kids “as they are” AND help them be better?
Read MoreA sociogram is a useful tool for educators who want objective data on a classroom’s social dynamics – here’s how they work.
Read MoreThe use of power is central to our interactions as leaders, coaches, parents, and change agents. To be more effective, emotional intelligence will help us understand and tune up our own use of power and the ways people react to that. There are dozens, maybe hundreds, of different forms of power. All of these “work” in some sense. If they generate certain desired there are “benefits.” At the same time, each produces unwanted side effects, called “costs.” What are some of the forms of power that you have, and that you exercise? What happens when you exercise these different forms of power? What price do you pay for each such use?
Read MoreThe neuroscience of empathy is fascinating and offers practical lessons for leadership and life. Our brains are wired for social connection through Mirror Neurons, which cause us to experience what we perceive.
Read MoreWe’ve all worked for or with those leaders whose first priority seems to be garnering credit and praise — so what is it that lets a rare few truly galvanize others around the mission?
Read MoreKaren McCown, Six Seconds’ Founder, handed this article to me several years ago. It’s stuck with me as a powerful set of guidelines for being impeccable with words. The children, Patty and I have discussed the “three gatekeepers” often over the last years; we started when the kids were 4 and 6 years old and […]
Read MoreHow can we solve conflicts with our kids – when they don’t want to talk about it? A major EQ challenge.
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