Insight and advice for parents and caregivers on creating an emotionally intelligent family. Also includes a few articles for kids.
“Have you ever found yourself in the middle a situation and you know it will to turn into a big mess? You can feel it slipping out of control… and yet you keep going. It’s as if you’re being pushed along this track; you know it’s going to lead to trouble, but it seems like there’s no choice.”
Read MoreSmarter About Feelings: Part Two . Part One introduced the idea of becoming smarter about feelings — and how that can help you (kids) get more of what you want… and less of what you don’t want! In that article I promised that I’d also write more about emotions and the meaning behind our feelings. […]
Read MoreWhen I was a kid, no one taught me about emotions. They’re so powerful! And such a big part of our lives… here are the most important ideas every kid (and adult) needs to know about feelings.
Read MoreHere’s why we make the boss, a colleague, a customer, spouses and lovers, and even our children into enemies — and a better way. It starts with our brains, and being addicted to the pleasure of righteousness.
Read MoreIn the chaos of contemporary life, how do we maintain connection to self and others? Two of the world’s preeminent experts on emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman and Joshua Freedman, discuss in an engaging Q&A.
Read MoreWe’re in this highly volatile, lonely, stressful context… for many families school is starting and jobs are changing: How do we parent now?
Read MoreWant less fighting at home? Three tips every parent can use to forge compromise. Bonus Poster for your fridge. Build trusting relationships with your children and even at work with Collaborative Parenting strategies.
Read More2020 is a time of upheaval as we grapple with CV19, racism, climate instability, polarization, increasing issues with mental health… and as parents of young adults, many of us feel like we’ve failed to leave them a better world. So what do we do?
Read MoreAs technology becomes increasingly enmeshed in every aspect of our lives, how can parents equip kids with the skills they need to thrive?
Read MoreCultivating a growth mindset has been strongly linked to greater happiness and achievement in life. Here are 9 tips + strategies to give your kids the gift of a growth mindset.
Read MorePerfectionism is the excessive fear of making mistakes. This week, I invite you to pay attention to how perfectionism, or the fear of making mistakes, shows up in your life.
Read MorePracticing emotional intelligence around how we eat it is an often forgotten key to digestive health, according to digestive psychologist Caspar Poyck. Here are 6 ways to eat mindfully and feel better physically.
Read MoreI am not completely satisfied with how I handle uncomfortable social situations. If you agree, join me in taking a moment to dive into how you can navigate and transform your own behavior and thought patterns.
Read MoreHeading back to school, mixed with hope & fear. How can we help students (anyone) feel belonging and acceptance as they are — while also supporting them to keep growing?
Read MoreWhen a child’s behavior devolves toward destruction, how can they find a way back toward health? A powerful story of how emotional intelligence helps.
Read MoreYou’ve told your kid “a million times” and frustration is rising. What if there was another way to see the situation? Here’s a 90-second tip for parents to use empathy to diffuse conflict and frustration.
Read MoreAfter horrific events in the news, do you share your feelings w kids/students… or try to reassure by hiding your feelings? How can we talk with children about these difficult feelings?
Read MoreThe key to happiness is strong, lifelong relationships – and you build those with empathy. Here’s how to increase empathy in children.
Read MoreThey’re unmotivated, cranky, and stressed… What’s going on with youth these days? New research says teens are even more stressed than adults — and burnout is on the rise. Here’s the story, straight from those in the middle of it.
Read MoreParenting is the toughest job on the planet — it can be an emotional rollercoaster… so maybe emotional intelligence could help? Here are ten tips, and a free poster for your fridge.
Read MoreHere’s a wonderful collection of books about emotional intelligence, including six key concepts for every parent to share with children (and books to do so!)
Read MoreWhen feelings run hot, how can we use emotional intelligence to fuel our commitment for positive change… and support children to create a better world?
Read MoreMutually respectful relationships are a foundation for human rights. So how can children & adults use emotional intelligence to strengthen relationships?
Read MoreThe stories of Krissie Jo and Gandhi remind me that others (children, parents, colleagues, friends, and family) are always watching. Let me be the best me I can be. Each winter I start thinking about Christmas in my hometown: Inkom, Idaho. It’s just like in the movies, I swear. Delights of dipping chocolates, baking filled cookies, and the […]
Read MoreHow to Talk to Kids About Fear and Trauma, Part II It’s difficult enough that, as parents, we struggle to find answers to the everyday issues with our kids, such as how to get them to eat more veggies, do their chores, and be kind to their siblings. When it comes to trauma and fear, […]
Read MoreStress kills… or does it? In the light of new neuroscience, maybe it’s time rethink stress – which might just save your life.
Read MoreI’ve noticed something intriguing – if you have no idea what result you want, you’re unlikely to get it. My skills at pool/billiards are terrible, but I still can plan ahead and think about how I’m going to whack the cue ball to get a particular result. Isn’t this true of all of our interactions? If we decide “where we want the ball to go” in our meetings, conversations, interactions… then it’s much more probably we can make that happen.
Read MoreIs there a way to be unconditionally loving, and also to hold high expectations? As parents, can we love our kids “as they are” AND help them be better?
Read MoreIf you’re a parent, it is one of your biggest fears. You have some friends whose child makes you wince every time s/he opens his mouth. Or is known among other parents as a bully. Your friends are constantly being called into the principal’s office to discuss their child’s behavior. And, most crushingly of all, […]
Read MoreThe use of power is central to our interactions as leaders, coaches, parents, and change agents. To be more effective, emotional intelligence will help us understand and tune up our own use of power and the ways people react to that. There are dozens, maybe hundreds, of different forms of power. All of these “work” in some sense. If they generate certain desired there are “benefits.” At the same time, each produces unwanted side effects, called “costs.” What are some of the forms of power that you have, and that you exercise? What happens when you exercise these different forms of power? What price do you pay for each such use?
Read MoreLife is full of these moments of transition, of uncertainty and discovery. People coming and going, growing up, moving away, coming back… waves on the sand, life seems to be continuously in flux, and you just can’t hold it still. Yesterday I delivered Emma to her first sleep-away summer camp; she’ll be there for three […]
Read MoreKaren McCown, Six Seconds’ Founder, handed this article to me several years ago. It’s stuck with me as a powerful set of guidelines for being impeccable with words. The children, Patty and I have discussed the “three gatekeepers” often over the last years; we started when the kids were 4 and 6 years old and […]
Read MoreHow can we solve conflicts with our kids – when they don’t want to talk about it? A major EQ challenge.
Read MoreThe Six Seconds model turns EQ theory into practice for your personal and professional life. Emotional intelligence is the capacity to blend thinking and feeling to make optimal decisions — which is key to having a successful relationship with yourself and others. To provide a practical and simple way to learn and practice emotional intelligence, Six Seconds developed a three-part model in 1997 as a process – an action plan for using emotional intelligence in daily life.
Read MoreThe drive to connect, to be accepted, is both glorious and brutal. It drives us to care and connect — and to engage in self-destructive behavior in a desperate bid to fit. The “thinness” of digital connection can’t actually be fixed by quantity — just as one can not get a healthy meal by eating a LOT of junk — but the thinness may drive people to want more.
Read MoreHow do we change out of a destructive pattern? Emma (my daughter, now 9) frequently makes a big fuss when it’s time to do work that’s not appealing, especially “dumb writing homework” (despite usually liking writing and being an outstanding student). This has gone on for years, but a couple of weeks ago I noticed […]
Read MoreThis week we watched the Star Wars trilogy as a family – first time for Emma and Max. Return of the Jedi was today. A couple of comments that followed up from the discussion of Satyagraha. Tucking into bed, Max, 7: “Remember when Luke made C3P0 fly, and then C3p0 said, ‘I didn’t know I […]
Read MoreEmma, my daughter, is having “the year of her life” in school — huge leaps of passion and learning and adventure. And facing powerful challenges. The most pressing being a relentless conflict with another girl, let’s call her Josie. They are both strong willed, independent, and believe themselves to be smart. Patty & I have […]
Read MoreIt is Independence Day here; when I was younger, it was a day for blowing stuff up, for a little thrill, and also for the ephemeral beauty of fireworks. A little less young, now it is a day for barbecues, family, and thinking about what it means to belong to a nation. We spent the […]
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