In this Illuminate series, we’ll be exploring each of the learnable competencies of the Six Seconds Emotional Intelligence Model. This is week two: Apply Consequential Thinking.
Choose what’s most true for you:
When I am triggered emotionally, I tend to:
d. pause, decide, then act
This week’s competency of Apply Consequential Thinking encourages you to explore what choosing option D feels like. You will think of a current choice you need to make, then use a personal activity to explore how you want yourself and others to be affected by your choice.
Applying Consequential Thinking is all about being intentional with your actions. It’s about taking that micro-pause to stop and think about where you really want to go before reacting on autopilot.
The next time you make a choice, how would it feel to really know what you want to have happen?
Rather than fighting, fleeing, or freezing, I invite you to take a pause with me to explore how you really want to respond to a certain situation. The chart you’ll use below will help you unravel the affects you want to make, both emotionally and rationally, based on your choice.
You’ll do this by asking yourself two simple questions:
What do I want emotionally?
What do I want rationally?
Find a piece of paper and a pen (or markers, crayons, colored pencils) + activate your power to apply consequential thinking…
1. Think of a current decision you want to make. If you want help considering one, you might revisit a pattern you identified last week. Maybe it’s a decision on a job, how to respond to someone you care about, or a financial situation. For example, my choice is around how to express my needs in a sticky situation.
2. Next, make your chart of what YOU want emotionally and rationally from your decision. Ask yourself: What do I want emotionally for myself and others? What do I want rationally? For example, a few of the emotions I identified for myself are: supported, unafraid, and empowered. A few of the rational outcomes I identified for myself are: express my opinions, take care of myself, and act more quickly. Make a chart for yourself like this one:
3. Time to make an intentional action. Now that you’ve explored what you want out of your decision, what action sounds the most aligned with your list?
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How did it feel to clarify the outcomes you want from your decision?
What was one insight you had from this activity? How might you apply that insight ‘in the moment’?
PS- if you’d like to practice ACT more with some 1-1 support, I am doing my Coaching Certification through Six Seconds, and my cohort and I are offering super-discounted coaching sessions to get all of our practice hours needed for certifications. Find out more here!
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