Scared Excited: Talking to Children About Trauma Part II

Scared Excited: Talking to Children About Trauma Part II

How to Talk to Kids About Fear and Trauma, Part II It’s difficult enough that, as parents, we struggle to find answers to the everyday issues with our kids, such as how to get them to eat more veggies, do their chores, and be kind to their siblings. When it comes to trauma and fear, […]

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Fear Change

Fear Change

To be emotionally intelligent about CHANGE, you’ve got to understand fear. Why we have it, how it affects change – and how to turn it into an ally.

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Tolerance, Emotions, and Politics

Tolerance, Emotions, and Politics

Recently, protesters at a several political rallies were surrounded and heckled by angry crowds and escorted from the building by police. Sometimes it’s hard to believe this is really happening in the United States in 2016. At moments like these, how can emotional intelligence bring light to and make sense of these conflicts, unfolding so […]

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The Fog of Fear

The Fog of Fear

Are we running scared?  As a business leader, I’m afraid that I don’t know what’s happening even one quarter out. As a parent, I’m afraid I’m not doing what’s best for my kids – especially when so much is coming unglued all around. As a person, I’m afraid we’re lost. Newtown.  Recession.  Floods.  The endless […]

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Are you a worrier?

Are you a worrier?

Emotional Intelligence explores how thoughts create feelings.  Here’s a deceptively simple tool.  When I’m caught in a worry cycle, I can use this flowchart as a good reminder.  I can examine my situation and take action.  One action is changing my thoughts –which will change my feelings.

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Spiky or Soft – Protection and Connection

Spiky or Soft – Protection and Connection

Perhaps self evident:  When people are hurt or scared, we often protect ourselves by becoming spiky or hard – creating a shell or a wall.  As we shut down our feelings to prevent more distress, we shut down not just the painful feelings but all feelings.  As the spikes get sharper, the walls higher, we […]

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Proactive, Reactive, Inactive

One of the major issues that surfaced in the 2010 Workplace Issues Report (and the 2007 report for that matter) is being proactive. You know – that state when you put out the fire before it’s a raging inferno? Or maybe even take the matches and paper away from your colleague before he starts the […]

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