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The decode sheet

What you feel in the chair is a hypothesis about the relationship, not a verdict about your client.

Boredom

Is anything real happening here — or are we in the safe story?

Irritation

Whose boundary just got crossed? Whose pace am I defending?

Anxiety

Am I attached to an outcome? Whose agenda is this?

Urge to rescue

Do I doubt their capacity right now?

Sudden tenderness

They just touched something true.

Emotions make great advisors and terrible bosses. The discipline is to consult the feeling rather than obey it — there's a page in the workbook for the ones that actually show up for you.

The tools from the room

Several of you asked, so here they are.

Biodots

The scale — tap to enlarge

Small thermometers that make the brain–body connection visible — a quick read on the neuroscience of emotion, taken off the back of your own hand. The color tracks stress arousal: black and amber mean tense, yellow unsettled, green engaged, and turquoise through purple relaxed.

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Where this work lives

Six Seconds is the world's first and largest organization dedicated entirely to emotional intelligence, working in more than 100 countries. The tune-in you practiced this morning is the core of what we do inside organizations like FedEx, Siemens and Accenture — training coaches, and bringing a coach-approach to leaders.

For coaches, that means the assessments and tools that make this measurable: the SEI suite, the Brain Brief Profile, and a certification path that runs from practitioner through to ICF-accredited master coach.

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