Do you want “your people” to be motivated, or do you want to control them?  I suspect many people (managers, teachers, parents) get these confused from time to time.  I know I do!  Of course most people say “motivated” but is that what they put in action?

Control means they do what you want.

Motivated means they do what they want.

Are these two mutually exclusive?  Take it personally for a moment: If you think someone is trying to control you, how does that affect your motivation?

I suspect that I want to control people when I feel out of control myself.  When I am fully confident, powerful, and charged up, I accept – even appreciate – the tension of real motivation.

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Joshua is one of the world’s preeminent experts on developing emotional intelligence to create positive change. With warmth and authenticity, he translates leading-edge science into practical, applicable terms that improve the quality of relationships to unlock enduring success. Joshua leads the world’s largest network of emotional intelligence practitioners and researchers.
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