Posts Tagged ‘change’

Dismantling our Habits

Ace was a better tennis player than his sister Sophie. He usually won their bi-weekly games. Then Sophie decided to take some lessons. She had taught herself to play and now she really wanted to improve her game. Her instructor required Sophie to take apart her swing, and her abilities deteriorated. Ace teased his sister […]

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Why is emotional intelligence important for change?

I’d like to write several posts about this — about how EQ helps us plan for change, how it is key to our resiliency, and how it’s essential for leading change.  But for today I’ll focus on how this intelligence can give us insight, or understanding. Change is confusing.  While we’re fabulous at change, usually, […]

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Play? What Child Has Time For Play?

Dr. Anabel Jensen, President of Six Seconds, once told me that if I would get any magazine it should be Scientific American Mind. She told me it would inform by trainings and my overall life! Little did I know at the time that she would be so right! In the February/March issue of Scientific American […]

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6S Emotional Intelligence Model in Putrajaya – Video

This is an excerpt from a keynote for young executives in the Malaysian government (aka “emerging leaders”).  My goal in this session was to engage them to consider how they show up as leaders and the opportunity offered by using emotions more consciously and effectively. The clip starts with our “EQ-Performance Chain” which shows how […]

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Doing Good

My sister works in a highly competitive, political environment. She calls it the “hall of mirrors” because of the constantly shifting alliances and schemes of her colleagues. Soon after her employment, “Jill” discovered that the charming banter of her co-workers hid stealth campaigns of character assassination and departmental warfare. Despite the risks, Jill dedicated herself […]

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The New Optimists

I have been thrilled to the very core by the inspiring words written recently on **Optimism** by two fantastic people. Optimist No 1 is Alex Steffen – World Changing Alex starts his important article in Good of 31 December by stressing the seriousness of the world’s current crisis: “We are at a moment unique in […]

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Disciplined Work in an Impatient World

Did an EI program today. While the bulk of the day flowed with excitement and laughter, our group did have some problems working through the 6 second videocamera exercise. This analytical tool can help a participant explore the costs and benefits of our behavior patterns. The exercise challenges us to delve deeply into a moment […]

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EQ Reflection: Monuments

Due to the foibles of flight schedules, I had some unexpected downtime in DC, and found myself wandering the Mall. I don’t think I’ve been here since I was in eighth grade, and it made a very different impression on me now. I suspect that the first time, I was much more concerned about the […]

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Affective Forecasting

A study by my colleague Marc Brackett examined affective forecasting ability and EI. Affective forecasting is the ability to accurately predict how you will feel about some future event. For example, consider how you will feel if a political candidate you support fails to win an election. We then come back after the election and […]

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Josh and emotional contagion

Emotional contagion is the spreading of emotions or moods from one person to another. It happens with pleasant as well as unpleasant moods. Some people are more contagious than others.  Josh Freedman, for example, is a powerful agent of emotional contagion. The emotions he transmits always seem to be pleasant and high-energy. On the ‘mood […]

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