The 3 Secrets to Success

The 3 Secrets to Success

My favorite picture book (sadly out of print) has fourteen words in it. I reread it frequently and share it often with others. It is the story of a tiny mouse whose job it is to move a gigantic purple elephant. He tries pulling, pushing, bribing with peanuts, and...
Changing Together

Changing Together

It was about 15 years ago.  Thirty-some intrepid learners journeyed from six countries to the first Six Seconds EQ Certification. People read Dan Goleman’s 1995 book, and saw his description of our Self-Science process as a model for teaching EQ, so they...
The Seduction of Impossibility

The Seduction of Impossibility

Four years ago, I couldn’t walk. I couldn’t even put my socks on. Yesterday, I went for a run — without someone chasing me… I actually chose it. As we think about change, rather than focusing on an “easy step,” there’s something incredibly powerful about embracing the impossible, and harvesting the emotional energy to fuel the next steps.

The (Un)Happy Neuroscience of New Year Resolutions

The (Un)Happy Neuroscience of New Year Resolutions

As the New Year approaches, many of us will pursue happiness by setting goals. But when it comes to happiness, we cannot trust our brains to point us in the right direction. Our brains confuse ‘wanting’ with ‘happiness’ because of the simplicity of the dopamine reward mechanisms.

From Violent Hearts to Heavenly Peace

From Violent Hearts to Heavenly Peace

Reading reactions to Sandy Hook, a common theme is blame, but is there an alternative? Looking at the neuroscience, it feels better to blame. When we blame, we know the answer, and that feeling of righteous wrath is actually a dopamine reward that our brain emits when we “know.” While this reaction cycle is wired into our brains, we do have a choice — three, in fact.

How Schools (de)Motivate Innovation

How Schools (de)Motivate Innovation

Intriguing article in the Wall Street Journal: Educating the Next Steve Jobs — points out that a narrowly defined pathway to “success” where failure is anathema is the recipe for conformity, not innovation. In most high-school and college classes,...