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Empathy: Finding Common Ground

Was working on an empathy workshop yesterday. Is that why the news seemed relevant? The cordial meeting of our current and soon-to-be first lady shows me how differences are overcome when we recognize our shared humanity. Reports said that during the meeting of these two very different women, much of their talk centered on raising […]

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Apricot Jam in KL

I’m in Kuala Lumpur eating breakfast in Times Square looking out over the city.  All week I’ve been eating spicy Asian food, and today I take some toast with apricot jam.  Taking a bite, I’m swept into homesickness and longing for the green gold fields and laughing children of home.  Amazing how our senses and […]

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Disciplined Work in an Impatient World

Did an EI program today. While the bulk of the day flowed with excitement and laughter, our group did have some problems working through the 6 second videocamera exercise. This analytical tool can help a participant explore the costs and benefits of our behavior patterns. The exercise challenges us to delve deeply into a moment […]

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Emotional Empathy

I was chatting with a colleague this week about empathy, thought you might appreciate this distinction: There are two parts of empathy.  “In” and “Out.”  AKA “Awareness” and “Response.”  AKA “Cognitive” and “Emotional.” The cognitive part of empathy is like learning to read and make sense of what you read.  You learn to accurately bring […]

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I’m not a brain scientist but….

I’ve been thinking about mirror neurons after seeing a wonderful video at the PBS/Nova site. These specialized brain cells help us relate to our surroundings and other people. Mirror cells build empathy and connection. They are activated when we watch and listen to others. The video suggested that mirror neurons function even more profoundly when […]

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Mark Johnson on Emotional Education

In today’s Guardian Mark Johnson has written an article entitled Forget Sats: lesson one is a basic emotional education. It is very interesting to read Mark’s thoughts on the subject, as his school experience was difficult. He is author of Wasted, which describes his experiences growing up with violence, alcohol and drugs, often crime. Mark’s comment in […]

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Headroom

The BBC have launched a new campaign called Headroom which aims to promote wellbeing widely. There are programmes, questionnaires, information of particular difficulties such as OCD and AHDH and depression. Well worth a look. Well done BBC. “Life is full of ups and downs. So the BBC has created Headroom, a campaign to encourage you to […]

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Projection: what’s mine becomes yours…..

One danger of not understanding our own feelings is attributing them to others. According to Encyclopedia Britannica, “Projection is a form of defense in which unwanted feelings are displaced onto another person, where they then appear as a threat from the external world. A common form of projection occurs when an individual, threatened by his […]

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Making the Invisible Visible

    This week I am fortunate to be in California with 6 Seconds. Friday and Saturday was the Choose to Change conference in San Jose which saw emotional intelligence practitioners gather to share their work, experiences and research. I am a huge fan of technology, but nothing can ever replace the sense of connection […]

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EQ Reflection: Monuments

Due to the foibles of flight schedules, I had some unexpected downtime in DC, and found myself wandering the Mall. I don’t think I’ve been here since I was in eighth grade, and it made a very different impression on me now. I suspect that the first time, I was much more concerned about the […]

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