What are you feeling today?

Can you name the eight basic emotions? If you’re working in EI, this is a gimme question.  If not, this may be tougher.  Try to name them now.  I’ll list them at the bottom of the post. It’s very common for all of us to (at least sometimes) avoid naming our feelings...

Dismantling our Habits

Ace was a better tennis player than his sister Sophie. He usually won their bi-weekly games. Then Sophie decided to take some lessons. She had taught herself to play and now she really wanted to improve her game. Her instructor required Sophie to take apart her swing,...

How to Kill Motivation

Have you heard this story? It illustrates what we’re learning about incentives and motivation. A slightly different version is found in Alfie Kohn’s, Punished by Rewards – The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and Other Bribes. For...

Does Passion Make Us Crazy?

In so many areas of my life, I am the steady ship. No matter how stormy the seas, I plot my course with confidence and ride through the rough waters with skill. But in the arena that mattered most to me—the theatre—I was often rudderless. Was it because I loved it so...
Play? What Child Has Time For Play?

Play? What Child Has Time For Play?

Dr. Anabel Jensen, President of Six Seconds, once told me that if I would get any magazine it should be Scientific American Mind. She told me it would inform by trainings and my overall life! Little did I know at the time that she would be so right! In the...

Balancing Working from Home

Jay Grant, network member and wellness coach, is a regular guest on Sacramento & Company.  Here is a clip about working from home and finding a work-life balance while working at home — including several practical...
How do you feel about feelings?

How do you feel about feelings?

As a child, I was profoundly serious and wanted to delve into my feelings. I would sit at our kitchen table alone, feeling sad, or scared, or angry, and Mom would say, “Stop thinking about it, go outside and play.” But I wanted to think about it. That was play for me....

Control-Z in Real Life

Working with Emma (my daughter, now 9) – she’s cutting out cupcakes for her science fair poster and cuts too much off:  “I wish there were a control-z for real life.” I so agree!  Think of all those “emotional intelligence train...

Waking Up

In my last post, I wrote of the delay between the beginning of a feeling or thought and our conscious awareness of it.  Ironically, I was about to have that “realization-emerges-from-the-darkness” experience myself. I was in a foul mood last week....