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I suspect my optimism confounds my time management. Six months ago I was working on my plans for ’09, and scheduled a trip to Dubai for late January, and saw these lovely two weeks at the start of the month stretching out like virgin snow on a ski slope.  I planned a whole host of […]

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Doing Good

My sister works in a highly competitive, political environment. She calls it the “hall of mirrors” because of the constantly shifting alliances and schemes of her colleagues. Soon after her employment, “Jill” discovered that the charming banter of her co-workers hid stealth campaigns of character assassination and departmental warfare. Despite the risks, Jill dedicated herself […]

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The New Optimists

I have been thrilled to the very core by the inspiring words written recently on **Optimism** by two fantastic people. Optimist No 1 is Alex Steffen – World Changing Alex starts his important article in Good of 31 December by stressing the seriousness of the world’s current crisis: “We are at a moment unique in […]

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Christmas of My Father’s Memory

My grandfather, Rudy, was flying in from New York on Christmas Eve, and Hank (my stepdad) and I were at the airport to collect him.  As we waited I thought about how Rudy and Hank loved signing Christmas carols; Rudy would play on my mom’s (his daughter’s) big black piano, and the room was too […]

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The Power of Focused Attention

Check out this excerpt from a recent David Brooks column: Most successful people also have a phenomenal ability to consciously focus their attention. We know from experiments with subjects as diverse as obsessive-compulsive disorder sufferers and Buddhist monks that people who can self-consciously focus attention have the power to rewire their brains. Control of attention […]

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Why?

This morning I had planned to get my yearly blood test at a lab 15 minutes from home. But I was resistant. My days away from the office are sacred and my routine is precious to me. I meditate, have breakfast, meditate some more and write. It is a peaceful, joyful time. The blood work […]

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The Power of Empathy

A friend of mine recently got a new job. “Jodie” soon discovered that her boss, “Sandra,” was a pariah in the company—secretly despised by almost everyone. It was easy to see why. Sandra had an abrasive manner, she literally stomped down the halls, stared at her colleagues with a stern expression, and often went silent […]

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Finding Peace Amidst Holiday Stress

Finding Peace Amidst Holiday Stress – Tips for an “Emotionally Intelligent” Holiday   Paradoxically, holidays are extremely stressful.  Given all the bad news we’re facing in the economy, this year may be especially challenging. There are so many expectations, so much to accomplish, and so many feelings all rolled together.  Holidays are rituals and we […]

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Emotions Resurgent

Maybe it’s me, but I am seeing more and more emphasis on moods and feelings in the popular press and the news.  So I thought it would be helpful to present a set of terms that are used by all of us, but in different ways. These definitions are based on those proposed by Sigal […]

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Loneliness

  Yesterday the BBC published their commissioned report  Changing UK which says that analysing the census data going back 30 years reveals the people in the UK are now much less rooted in their local neighbourhood. London was revealed as the ‘most lonely in UK’ ‘Researchers put this down to the high concentration of unmarried adults, […]

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