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Parenting Q&A with Annie Fox and Sue McNamara


What are the real challenges facing parents? Author Annie Fox discusses parenting teens with emotional intelligence expert Sue McNamara — how do we talk to teens? How do we help them be people who make good choices?

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Where Do You Want The Ball To Go?


I’ve noticed something intriguing – if you have no idea what result you want, you’re unlikely to get it. My skills at pool/billiards are terrible, but I still can plan ahead and think about how I’m going to whack the cue ball to get a particular result. Isn’t this true of all of our interactions? If we decide “where we want the ball to go” in our meetings, conversations, interactions… then it’s much more probably we can make that happen.

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The Way You Are


Does unconditional love mean you accept people fully — without wanting them to be better?  As a parent, does it mean you don’t push your kids to do better?  As a spouse, does it mean you don’t encourage your partner to grow?  As a manager, does it mean you accept ho-hum performance? Recently I noticed […]

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5 Vital Steps to Raising A Child Who Makes Your Heart Explode With Pride


If you’re a parent, it is one of your biggest fears. You have some friends whose child makes you wince every time s/he opens his mouth. Or is known among other parents as a bully. Your friends are constantly being called into the principal’s office to discuss their child’s behavior. And, most crushingly of all, […]

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6 Children’s Storybooks Every Emotionally Intelligent Adult Should Read


This is a list of fabulous books you should read. If you have a child, I recommend you read these books together and talk about the messages inherent within them. Discuss what the message means for your own life and share that with your child. And listen carefully to what s/he has to say about […]

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Learning to Connect… The Gift of Empathy


In the wee hours of that Thursday morning, 15 hours before he passed away, I was alone with John in the hospital’s Intensive Care Unit. With just the sounds of medical machines gently beeping around us, I had an unforgettable “conversation” with John. He never regained consciousness after his surgery. But I quietly looked at […]

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The Homework Problem

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Isn’t homework essential for getting kids to internalize skills and become solid in their new learning?  Keeps them busy and out of trouble… and no harm in that, right? Research says it’s not so clear that it helps… and the social-emotional effects may be grave.  Here’s an excerpt from a new article in the  Washington […]

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14 Tips for Helping Children with Emotional Intelligence

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An excellent post by Elizabeth O’Shea with 14 clear, powerful ideas about being an emotionally intelligent parent. Here are the first 3 – how would it be to put these into action? 1. Accept our children’s emotions and emotional responses ‘That must have been really frustrating’ ‘Wow, you are showing me how angry you feel’ ‘That’s […]

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Are American Parents That Bad? You Decide


Last week I read an article in the Wall Street Journal that headlined, ‘Why French Parents Are Superior’ written by author of ‘Bringing Up Bebe,’ American Pamela Druckerman. Funnily enough, almost exactly a year ago, the Wall Street Journal published an article headlined, ‘Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior’ written by Amy Chua, author of the […]

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Feel the Power: Flexing EQ


The use of power is central to our interactions as leaders, coaches, parents, and change agents. To be more effective, emotional intelligence will help us understand and tune up our own use of power and the ways people react to that. There are dozens, maybe hundreds, of different forms of power. All of these “work” in some sense. If they generate certain desired there are “benefits.” At the same time, each produces unwanted side effects, called “costs.” What are some of the forms of power that you have, and that you exercise? What happens when you exercise these different forms of power? What price do you pay for each such use?

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