Comments on: Hope and Loss: Back to School http://www.6seconds.org/blog/2008/09/01/hope-and-loss-back-to-school.html Emotional Intelligence News and Views Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:14:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Darnelle Constant http://www.6seconds.org/blog/2008/09/01/hope-and-loss-back-to-school.html#comment-526 Darnelle Constant Wed, 03 Sep 2008 10:41:53 +0000 http://6seconds.org/blog/2008/09/01/hope-and-loss-back-to-school.html#comment-526 Dear Josh, Thank you so much. Now I know how to approach my first assmbly for the pupils of my school for this new academic year. This is exactly what they need to hear; that adults too are sad to return after the summer holidays but more importantly they need to hear that it is natural, human and an opportunity to start anew. Gratefull yours, Darnelle Dear Josh,
Thank you so much. Now I know how to approach my first assmbly for the pupils of my school for this new academic year. This is exactly what they need to hear; that adults too are sad to return after the summer holidays but more importantly they need to hear that it is natural, human and an opportunity to start anew.
Gratefull yours,
Darnelle

]]> By: Joshua Freedman http://www.6seconds.org/blog/2008/09/01/hope-and-loss-back-to-school.html#comment-525 Joshua Freedman Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:36:10 +0000 http://6seconds.org/blog/2008/09/01/hope-and-loss-back-to-school.html#comment-525 Hey MJ, good to hear from you! Thank you for the thoughtful comment. Your comment reminds me of a paradox: so often in workshops people tell me: a) being parents is the best thing in their lives, and b) their parents really made a mess of things. This is evidence of the power of biology? Well, maybe - but also a reminder that life just is messy. We make a LOT of mistakes as parents and as people. And then most of us are able to learn from those, or cope, or recover, or even flourish. As you say - "we can, and most do, end up okay - even with all the trials." People are amazingly resilient! Thank goodness. AND we know that with a little help and some emotional intelligence skills people can be even more resilient - or bounce not just back, but ahead. Hey MJ, good to hear from you! Thank you for the thoughtful comment.

Your comment reminds me of a paradox: so often in workshops people tell me:
a) being parents is the best thing in their lives, and
b) their parents really made a mess of things.
This is evidence of the power of biology? Well, maybe - but also a reminder that life just is messy. We make a LOT of mistakes as parents and as people. And then most of us are able to learn from those, or cope, or recover, or even flourish.

As you say - “we can, and most do, end up okay - even with all the trials.” People are amazingly resilient! Thank goodness. AND we know that with a little help and some emotional intelligence skills people can be even more resilient - or bounce not just back, but ahead.

]]> By: MJ http://www.6seconds.org/blog/2008/09/01/hope-and-loss-back-to-school.html#comment-524 MJ Tue, 02 Sep 2008 00:47:34 +0000 http://6seconds.org/blog/2008/09/01/hope-and-loss-back-to-school.html#comment-524 Josh - this was excellent in emotion and value. I think it can remind us all to keep perspective in mind with all of our kids marching forward - that yes - we indeed need to plan, and "skill" ourselves to achieve what is desired/needed - but there's also that outcome that "we do get through it all" - we can, and most do, end up okay - even with all the trials that we may see as emotionally life-threatening at the time. Helping our kids suffer through the fleeting pains and fears, in a way that can also provide them some context and optimism for ultimate survival,is indeed a powerful mix of empathy and hope. Josh - this was excellent in emotion and value. I think it can remind us all to keep perspective in mind with all of our kids marching forward - that yes - we indeed need to plan, and “skill” ourselves to achieve what is desired/needed - but there’s also that outcome that “we do get through it all” - we can, and most do, end up okay - even with all the trials that we may see as emotionally life-threatening at the time. Helping our kids suffer through the fleeting pains and fears, in a way that can also provide them some context and optimism for ultimate survival,is indeed a powerful mix of empathy and hope.

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