Comments on: Is Gossip All Bad? http://www.6seconds.org/blog/2006/04/27/is-gossip-all-bad.html Emotional Intelligence News and Views Wed, 07 Jan 2009 07:47:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Orrin http://www.6seconds.org/blog/2006/04/27/is-gossip-all-bad.html#comment-176 Orrin Fri, 22 Feb 2008 17:40:46 +0000 http://6seconds.org/blog/?p=12#comment-176 Gossip is not inherently malicious. However, it is inherently one of the lowest and most questionable forms of communication. Whether positive or negative information is being relayed, the subject of the communication is not present to confirm the accuracy of the information being shared. Gossip invariably involves misinformation, half-truths, and one-sided, myopic points of view. In addition, talking about any subject that is none of my business is really none of my business. It is unlikely that sharing or listening to any gossip will lead to greater happiness in the world. So, at the very least, it is a waste of time and effort. What’s my advice? Avoid listening to gossip. Do not believe any gossip. When someone attempts to share gossip with you, politely let them know that you are not interested. Gossip is not inherently malicious. However, it is inherently one of the lowest and most questionable forms of communication. Whether positive or negative information is being relayed, the subject of the communication is not present to confirm the accuracy of the information being shared. Gossip invariably involves misinformation, half-truths, and one-sided, myopic points of view. In addition, talking about any subject that is none of my business is really none of my business. It is unlikely that sharing or listening to any gossip will lead to greater happiness in the world. So, at the very least, it is a waste of time and effort. What’s my advice? Avoid listening to gossip. Do not believe any gossip. When someone attempts to share gossip with you, politely let them know that you are not interested.

]]> By: Luis Cordero http://www.6seconds.org/blog/2006/04/27/is-gossip-all-bad.html#comment-4 Luis Cordero Tue, 09 May 2006 23:49:00 +0000 http://6seconds.org/blog/?p=12#comment-4 Josh:<br/><br/>Looking again at your post, let´s see if we agree on the definition we are using for gossip: "a light informal conversation for social occations is not gossip", it is simple "light and informal conversation" (for example: how are the kids, work, weather...) The malicious talking is what were refer to gossip. right?<br/><br/>But people love to gossip, out of envy or anger, helped by the quick tongue we all have. If you wish to serve the larger purpose, you confront the person you will "gossip about". (and try to help...)<br/><br/>"Thinking" you are being positive when you gossip if finding a way to justify your actions... Josh:

Looking again at your post, let´s see if we agree on the definition we are using for gossip: “a light informal conversation for social occations is not gossip”, it is simple “light and informal conversation” (for example: how are the kids, work, weather…) The malicious talking is what were refer to gossip. right?

But people love to gossip, out of envy or anger, helped by the quick tongue we all have. If you wish to serve the larger purpose, you confront the person you will “gossip about”. (and try to help…)

“Thinking” you are being positive when you gossip if finding a way to justify your actions…

]]> By: Josh http://www.6seconds.org/blog/2006/04/27/is-gossip-all-bad.html#comment-3 Josh Tue, 09 May 2006 03:32:00 +0000 http://6seconds.org/blog/?p=12#comment-3 Thanks for posting a comment, Luis. It seems like some people <b>think</b> they are being positive when they gossip. Is that different? Thanks for posting a comment, Luis. It seems like some people think they are being positive when they gossip. Is that different?

]]> By: Luis Cordero http://www.6seconds.org/blog/2006/04/27/is-gossip-all-bad.html#comment-2 Luis Cordero Wed, 03 May 2006 21:22:00 +0000 http://6seconds.org/blog/?p=12#comment-2 There is no such thing as "positive gossip", and even if you try to use it in a positive way...you will end up gossiping... There is no such thing as “positive gossip”, and even if you try to use it in a positive way…you will end up gossiping…

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