This teen’s story shows how Emotional Intelligence can spread from family relationships to the broader world
No parenting podcast would be complete without a look into the world and thoughts of teens. So much change and growth is happening in such a short time it can feel like a rocky road for parent and child. There seems to be a constant push and pull going on between dependence and independence, security and risk taking.
We want to stay emotionally close even as they push away, and we want them to be safe, and to let them soar on their own wings. No wonder the word “turbulent “is often used alongside the word “teen”.
If you are a parent of a teen, you know that your relationship with your child can often barely keep up with the speed of change underway. Just when you think you have reached some kind of plateau of harmony and understanding, they change again; change tastes, friends, hairstyles, and emotional states. And you change, too, from the person responsible for physical care and comfort to a role that requires more psychology and humor and maybe nerves of steel. EQ can be a huge help for families during the teen years.
The skill of navigating emotions is certainly helpful for both of you. While much is written by adults about the hard parts of being a young person or the parent of teens, we often don’t hear teens speaking for themselves. That is why we wanted to share Leïla ‘s story.
Leïla is 15. She lives in France with her mother, Eve and her brother, Dario, who has autism. Leila speaks three languages and is very aware of the injustices happening in the world, from terrorist attacks on her home country to discrimination against minority groups and people with disabilities.She is also very aware of what it means to take responsibility for her feelings, thoughts and actions.
Like many teens, Leïla has struggled with finding her personal strength and identity. One part of her skill set is the ability to understand her own and others’ emotions and to empathize with people of all stripes.
Leïla says she wants to start a YouTube Channel about Black Lives Matter in her home country because she wants to do something about what she sees as unfairness in the world.
Leïla talks eloquently about having empathy for others, seeking and giving forgiveness in a real way, and how she extends her relationship with her family outward into wanting to help forge peaceful relationships among different cultures and ideologies. As with every Raising Humans podcast, May Duong, Director of Parenting Education for Six Seconds, offers EQ tips and perspectives for parents. Thank you to Leïla , for sharing your time with us on this latest Raising Humans podcast.
Please check out this useful worksheet for parents of teens:
Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers
From Maurice Elias, questionnaires and quizzes to help you to recognize your emotional patterns as a parent. Do you show your children a variety of feelings? How do you model emotional intelligence for your teens? Plus, tips for parents and educators on how to foster academic, social, and emotional growth, sound character and strong, positive relationships.